To follow on from the blog a week or so ago.
If any of you would like to know how to set a goal so that it is achieveable for you, email me on info@nucleuscoaching.com for a free white paper.
You will learn how to set a goal, and bring it through to what you will acknowledge as the point of achievement.
Looking forward to hearing from you all
Friday, January 22, 2010
Monday, January 18, 2010
The third Monday of the year..........
The first thing I heard on the radio this morning is that according to a researcher, this is to be the most depressing day of the year! Well I don't know about you but today I feel fine, in fact quite good.
Now yesterday, that was another thing. I woke up after a great nights sleep and jumped out of bed. I decided to cook crepes for breakfast with raspberries, yummy. I love Sunday mornings, breakfast, fresh coffee, papers and conversation....no rush, and we didn't have to be or do anything, fantastic.
Yet within about 5 minutes of being up I got this niggly unsettled feeling in my tummy and head. Trouble is these things don't like to be ignored or resisted as that only gives them strength and substance and almost a significance, and as much as I know about how to deal with these things every now and again I forget and fall into an old behaviour which is not effective. Rather than accepting that I did't feel very 'special' and that 'it's ok as it will pass', I kept thinking about it and trying to figure it out. Of course if we keep thinking about something, we place all our focus on it which gives us more of the same. So instead of having a really nice relaxing morning from the minute I got up, it was a couple of hours later when I became aware of what I was doing that I eventually settled into the gentle swing of the day.
We are not always the relaxed, happy person we want to be. Sometimes we are not at full par. Accept that things are not so special at the moment and that it will pass. The exercise of doing that will reduce any resistance, and where there is no resistance there is no insistance.
It's ok not to be ok all of the time. Be kind to yourself and accept yourself.
Now yesterday, that was another thing. I woke up after a great nights sleep and jumped out of bed. I decided to cook crepes for breakfast with raspberries, yummy. I love Sunday mornings, breakfast, fresh coffee, papers and conversation....no rush, and we didn't have to be or do anything, fantastic.
Yet within about 5 minutes of being up I got this niggly unsettled feeling in my tummy and head. Trouble is these things don't like to be ignored or resisted as that only gives them strength and substance and almost a significance, and as much as I know about how to deal with these things every now and again I forget and fall into an old behaviour which is not effective. Rather than accepting that I did't feel very 'special' and that 'it's ok as it will pass', I kept thinking about it and trying to figure it out. Of course if we keep thinking about something, we place all our focus on it which gives us more of the same. So instead of having a really nice relaxing morning from the minute I got up, it was a couple of hours later when I became aware of what I was doing that I eventually settled into the gentle swing of the day.
We are not always the relaxed, happy person we want to be. Sometimes we are not at full par. Accept that things are not so special at the moment and that it will pass. The exercise of doing that will reduce any resistance, and where there is no resistance there is no insistance.
It's ok not to be ok all of the time. Be kind to yourself and accept yourself.
Wednesday, January 6, 2010
So what's ahead for this year?
If I were to ask you what would you like to achieve this year, could you answer me?
If I were to ask you what would you like your life and/or business to look like this time next year, could you answer me?
All too often we just travel the road without knowing where we are going, and then when something goes wrong we go into a speed wobble from this unexpected 'how did this happen?' hurdle which has appeared. We then spend valuable time trying to sort it out get back ontrack, which is sometimes easier said than done.
What would it be like if we actually sat down and took some time to look ahead and to decide what direction we would like our life and business to take. If we really focused on where we would like to go and how we could get there.
Firstly decide on what you would like to achieve, the direction you would like to go.....are you being realistic, is it really achieveable for you? Be honest with yourself and yet don't sell yourself short at the same time.
If it is achieveable then start looking at the options which will take you there:
- how are you going to do it?
- what resources do you need?
- who could help you ?
and any other questions which will tease out this stage for you. If it is not achieveable then look at what would make it achieveable.
When you have a focus and have looked at the options, then lay a time plan for yourself. When you want to have the different things/stages completed by and write these down. If it helps set little rewards for yourself when things have been achieved and maybe ask a colleague/partner to keep you accountable on each step of the way, less likely to fall behind if you have to answer to someone.
The one important thing to remember is that things do not always go to plan and a certain amount of flexibility will be needed. If this happens at any stage, just sit down with a pen and paper and go back to the options stage and start teasing them out again.
And of course to put all of this in place and to get where you want to go this time next year, you will also need a good dollpo of commitment.
Happy New Year to you all and if any of you would like to take this further please contact me
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